The Problem Isn’t You—It’s the System

I’m not here to tell you what you should do differently as a mother. You don’t need more parenting advice. You don’t need another checklist, another tip on how to optimize your routine, or another way to meet impossible expectations.

Because the truth is—you already know enough.

The Real Problem: Capacity, Not Knowledge

Most mothers don’t struggle because they lack knowledge. They struggle because modern motherhood is too demanding.

We’re expected to do it all—nurture, provide, teach, cook, clean, work, and somehow still take care of ourselves. And when we inevitably feel like we’re falling short, the world tells us to try harder. Be more present. Be more patient. Do more self-care.

But here’s the thing: If our cups were full, we would already be doing all of that.

Instead of asking mothers to do more, we should be asking:

• Why is modern motherhood so exhausting?

• Why do we feel like we can never quite keep up?

• What systemic changes do we need to actually support mothers instead of just telling them to “figure it out”?

What I Believe

I believe in filling our cups instead of constantly pouring from empty ones.I believe in understanding why we feel the way we do.I believe in learning how to navigate a system that doesn’t support us—and eventually, changing that system.

I’m here to advocate for more support, highlight the science behind maternal mental health, and show you that the system is failing you—so you never think you’re the one failing.